It’s been a long week getting back into the routine. I have been working on my habits which has been going very well. It feels good to ‘check the box’ daily to see I’m doing something to support my life on a regular basis. I feel really good about it and it doesn’t seem like this overwhelming goal I ‘have to achieve’ but instead small nuggets of progress that is encouraging me to continue.
I have also been diligently listening to podcasts on way to and from work which resets me for the day and keeps me thinking about the positive. I love ‘Half Size Me’. I’m only on episode 35 but so far, it’s been awesome. I love the inspiration and the tips/tricks others have shared in their weight loss journey. One major learning is that everyone has their own journey, everyone has their own ‘approach’ to losing weight and keeping it off. It’s about finding what works for you.
I needed it because I found myself going into old thought patterns when I was back at the office. There were a few things that had happened this week where I felt myself tense up and get defensive and when that happens, in the past, I would shut down and go into Negative Nelly mode or Vani Victim where I would blame others for feeling bad. After one meeting, I had to get up and go for a walk. I ended up taking the stairs, which was really good. It immediately put me into another state because I was upset and I new if I didn’t get up from the desk, I was going to ‘stew in my Negative Nelly juices’. It was a big win. The key for me is to keep the positive messages flowing, whether through podcasts, movies, audio books, or reading. If I do, it helps me stay positive and take time for myself to breath, it really helps me focus on the good.
I’ve been reading this amazing book which I recommend to anyone who’s looking to change. The book is called The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It by Kelly McGonigal Ph.D. I learned about it after listening to an “Addicted to Success” podcast. This book is amazing. It’s the first resource where I’ve learned about more about why I self-sabotage. I couldn’t believe it!! It was like singing ‘hallelujah’ because I felt like, okay, I’m not the only one who goes through this and now I know why. Her chapter on “Moral Licensing” was genius. It’s so true for me. The basic concept is when you are trying to achieve a goal, in this case lose weight, you often find yourself during the day making good food choices in the morning and then saying to yourself in the afternoon, “I’ve done so well this morning, I deserve to eat this ice cream tonight.” OMG, this has been my life for TOO long and I realized, I’m not the only one.
I’m still reading the book but as I go, I’ll continue to share my experiences because everyone who has lost weight or tried losing weight will relate to these concepts. I’m excited to continue learning because I find new things I’ve never seen before and it’s amazing to see how it debunks my old beliefs, thoughts and behaviors. Each day I’m transforming and I know in a matter of time, the weight loss will follow.