Category Archives: Happy

How Life Can Interfere with Eating

One of the things I’ve been working on is mindful eating or intuitive eating.  When I make the food myself, sit down at the table, thank the food and eat it without distractions it’s a different experience. It also includes taking the time to actually taste the food and enjoy the food. When I do, the meal is much more pleasurable.

The key is having the time. While in the day to day bustle of a full time job, running around going to various activities, it’s an accomplishment when we can sit down as a family to enjoy a healthy meal.  What I am doing now to maximize my time is to plan menus ahead and cook or prep dinners ahead.  Sometimes it’s worked out very well and other times I’ve come home and the food I had planned to make went bad because I waited too many days to make it. But I’m learning new techniques as I go which helps.

Another focus is understanding where I am emotionally and psychologically from day to day. For the days I’m in a good mood and high energy, I’ll do well to take my time and it feels great. However, when I’m not feeling the best (like when BFF is visiting) or it was a stressful day at work, I’m less likely to take the time to do anything.  In fact, I find myself reaching for food to ‘relax’ which is not the best choice to change my emotional state.

It happened this past week. I had some incredible moments of remaining present, preparing meals ahead and taking the time to enjoy them.  It was awesome!  However, there were other moments where I rushed, didn’t really taste the food and went searching for more because I felt I ‘needed’ it.  The good news is I’m fully aware and can specifically point out the different times this happened.

One of the things I did not do this past week was exercise.  Exercise has always been a big part of my life. I started yoga again last week and because of BFF, I talked myself out of doing it this week.  It seems as though my ego does a great job ‘coddling’ me when BFF is here. Honestly, it’s not doing me any favors and I realize it.

But, i’m committed to this journey of becoming aware of these unhealthy patterns of behavior I learned over the years.  I know it takes time to change but it can be done and there’s no rush.  I feel so much better emotionally than I’ve ever felt in my life. I feel stronger, more peaceful and I experience joy all the time now.  It’s not situational or dependent on others.  It’s just an overall sense of peace and joy and that’s the best of all. I’m on my way and I feel it every day.

 

New Year, New You!

This is the mantra I’m seeing all over the place these days.  It’s a time of resolutions where I will typically write down goals for the year.  However, again this year, I only have 4. They feel doable and not overwhelming. In the past, I would write 20 goals and it was ridiculous.  Thankfully, wisdom comes with age.

It’s been a while since I’ve written. Mostly because I’ve been doing some self-reflection on my life. Last year, as you know, I went off sugar for 3 straight months. It was fantastic! I felt great, lost a lot of weight and was doing well.  Then I started in the on the sugar again and it all came back. That’s when I decided, enough is a enough.  I am done with diets.  They work, don’t get me wrong, but they are not sustainable for me.   Yes, not eating sugar and flour is fantastic for your health and if you stay off it, you’d probably be in the best shape of your life.  The problem for us emotional eaters, is that there are emotions involved and because they can be pretty strong, it’s not that simple.  I have always believed in the 80/20 rule and decided, it’s time I apply it to all aspects of my life.

I want to live my life, not be so focused on my weight. This topic has taken the majority of my brain power too long and for too many years.  I want to enjoy my life. To do that, I have to give up this obsession with losing weight.  Instead, how about feeling good now.  In the past, I would get anxious thinking about doing that because does it mean I don’t care? How could I be perceived as not caring? I look in the mirror everyday.  But that’s just it, I am caring about myself if I’m focused on being happy.  If I’m happy, I’m more likely to take care of my body and enjoy myself along the way…

What’s better than that?

Focus on Happiness To Feel Happy NOW

It’s been a rough couple of weeks.  I really good friend passed away and it was difficult. She was just 44 years old.  I didn’t blog because I took the time to remember the good times with my friend and how much I’ll miss her. I also took time to reflect on my life and how important it is to keep myself happy and healthy.  That includes how we think, how we view ourselves and what we say to ourselves on a daily basis.  That is the true predictor of good health. Depending on how you think, determines how you feel and how your body reacts.  I’ve known this all along but I’ve always been focused on dieting, eating, and exercise.  Of course, those elements are all important, BUT if my thought life is not loving and positive, none of those things will ever come together.

I already started focusing in this area, but now, I’ve decided, that’s going to be where my energy is going to flow full time.  My goal is to create a reality for myself that keeps me happy. This means letting go of all those things that do not make me happy.  It also means shifting my thinking towards thoughts of happiness.  What good is it to tell myself I’m unhappy with my body? Is that going to change my body? No, it’s going to keep me where I am or worse.  How do I know this?? Ah, because it’s been over 40 years of this thinking that hasn’t change anything. What I have been doing has not worked.  This is why diets don’t work either. Why not instead, declare how I want to see myself now? This will immediately make me feel better about myself and it will also move my body to align with my thinking.

You hear many teachers say, thoughts become things.  Well if I want to create a positive life, then I have to start thinking about this positive life now.  In the past, my psychology was, “When I have an amazing body, then I’ll live my life.”  Pathetic, but true. I would ‘punish’ myself by not buying clothes until I lost weight or not going on trips because I was embarrassed with my body.  This is all nonsense and kept me in this circle of unhappiness.

If I want to feel happy now, then I have to start doing those things which make me happy. For me, it’s being outside in nature, biking, walking, hiking, reading etc.  I love being outside.  Given this, I’ve done everything I can to start planning more and more activities to be outside and I have to say, I am happier for it.  Last week was tough emotionally, but to counter those thoughts of sadness, I kept telling myself, it was okay to feel sad and I’m going to be okay.  I then planned an outdoor biking trip with my family for the holiday weekend and it was amazing.  I was extremely happy.  Talk about a turnaround. In the past, I would wallow in my sadness for weeks. This would lead to overeating, negative self talk and I would miserable for a while.  Who does that serve? No one. Would that bring my friend back? No. Would it make me feel better? No.

This is the life I used to live. Instead, I am purposely choosing to change because I know, I can live a happy life now regardless of my current circumstances and that’s what I’m going to do. Do you want to join me?