This week, I had to come clean about lies I’ve been telling myself and find out why this happens. So I did some research and came up with some interesting information. I particular liked what Joyce Marter, LCPC says in “We All Lie to Ourselves: How to Stop, By Joyce Marter, LCPC“
In the article, Joyce points out four reasons why we lie to ourselves. Here’s the one I wanted to focus on today:
- Minimizing how much we eat to preserve our eating addiction ***
This is the one that hits home. Over the years, I told myself often I could eat sugar in moderation and would ‘downplay’ how much I truly ate in order to ‘allow’ myself to eat more. I know that sounds strange, but it’s the truth. I can see now, I wanted to preserve my addiction to sugar because I loved it so much. I felt I needed it all the time (and when I say all the time, I’m talking at ever meal)! It was a defensive mechanism (self-preservation) so I didn’t have to face reality that I lacked self-control in this area. It’s not easy to admit to this fact, but it’s the truth and I wanted to share the truth with you today.
While choosing to avoid sugar, I found something else that’s been causing some cravings. Real Peanut Butter (the natural, no sugar kind). In the past, I’ve never really had an issue with Peanut Butter, until now.
I keep telling myself I can have a little in moderation because I’m not eating sugar, flour or corn at the moment (self-justification). I can have one treat, why not? But I’m noticing that I’m eating way more then I should. I have to realize, this is going to hurt my efforts if I continue without setting limits on myself. I haven’t done well with setting limits on food in the past. I find myself eating more than I should, not sticking to the amount I agreed upon earlier in the day. Is this a lie I’m telling myself, that I can eat more than what I planned? Definitely! How do we stop lying to ourselves? Joyce suggests we start by:
- Examining those areas of our lives which are hurting us — doing that through this blog post.
- Continue to engage with people we trust — talking with BFFs.
- Feel the negative emotions, talk through them and practice allowing them to dissipate — Redirect emotions towards something positive and consciously forgiving myself.
- Focus on connecting to our inner self, and doing a gut check, are our thoughts, behaviors and words in alignment? — am what I’m thinking, saying and doing in alignment – I would say no because I’m thinking I can ‘handle’ the peanut butter and yet I’m not controling the portions.
- Do our best to always be honest — It’s time to face the facts that I need to either control the portions or not eat the peanut butter.
As we all progress through this journey, it’s important to recognize and address those lies we tell ourselves in order to begin the healing process. If we don’t, we’ll continue to spin and become frustrated, beat ourselves up and not reach our goals. Have you lied to yourself about your eating habits? If so, what are some examples?