It’s been a rough couple of weeks. I really good friend passed away and it was difficult. She was just 44 years old. I didn’t blog because I took the time to remember the good times with my friend and how much I’ll miss her. I also took time to reflect on my life and how important it is to keep myself happy and healthy. That includes how we think, how we view ourselves and what we say to ourselves on a daily basis. That is the true predictor of good health. Depending on how you think, determines how you feel and how your body reacts. I’ve known this all along but I’ve always been focused on dieting, eating, and exercise. Of course, those elements are all important, BUT if my thought life is not loving and positive, none of those things will ever come together.
I already started focusing in this area, but now, I’ve decided, that’s going to be where my energy is going to flow full time. My goal is to create a reality for myself that keeps me happy. This means letting go of all those things that do not make me happy. It also means shifting my thinking towards thoughts of happiness. What good is it to tell myself I’m unhappy with my body? Is that going to change my body? No, it’s going to keep me where I am or worse. How do I know this?? Ah, because it’s been over 40 years of this thinking that hasn’t change anything. What I have been doing has not worked. This is why diets don’t work either. Why not instead, declare how I want to see myself now? This will immediately make me feel better about myself and it will also move my body to align with my thinking.
You hear many teachers say, thoughts become things. Well if I want to create a positive life, then I have to start thinking about this positive life now. In the past, my psychology was, “When I have an amazing body, then I’ll live my life.” Pathetic, but true. I would ‘punish’ myself by not buying clothes until I lost weight or not going on trips because I was embarrassed with my body. This is all nonsense and kept me in this circle of unhappiness.
If I want to feel happy now, then I have to start doing those things which make me happy. For me, it’s being outside in nature, biking, walking, hiking, reading etc. I love being outside. Given this, I’ve done everything I can to start planning more and more activities to be outside and I have to say, I am happier for it. Last week was tough emotionally, but to counter those thoughts of sadness, I kept telling myself, it was okay to feel sad and I’m going to be okay. I then planned an outdoor biking trip with my family for the holiday weekend and it was amazing. I was extremely happy. Talk about a turnaround. In the past, I would wallow in my sadness for weeks. This would lead to overeating, negative self talk and I would miserable for a while. Who does that serve? No one. Would that bring my friend back? No. Would it make me feel better? No.
This is the life I used to live. Instead, I am purposely choosing to change because I know, I can live a happy life now regardless of my current circumstances and that’s what I’m going to do. Do you want to join me?